Life, Death, etc.
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Well I thought I’d better put some reality stuff in here for those of you who like to see what’s going on in other people’s lives. If sad stories bother you then you’d better stop reading now.
I’ve just come back from the hospital were I’ve been visiting my mum and also had a meeting with the pallative care doctor and others. My mother has stomach cancer and hasn’t got long to live. I knew this day would come as she has been battling various cancers for 8 years but it’s still very very difficult. At the end of last week I was told that there was no cure, no more operations and no more chemo. I struggled for a few days to come to terms with this but now I have to just carry on. So now what? Well that’s the hard part – we don’t know. For now she’s being fed by a tube that goes straight to her bowel. If she’s okay in a couple of days then she’ll need to go into a hospice, I don’t know how long for though. They gave her the option today to just let her go and she dies in 2 weeks or to continue the feed and see if she can live some more months. What a decision. 
The doctors convinced mum to hang in there and see if she can extend her life a little more. After a few weeks in the hospice if she’s okay then I don’t know what’s going to happen as it’s too difficult for her to go home and live there on her own. My father is in a nursing home his last stages of Alzheimers and has no understanding of anything… he needs 24 hour assistance for everything which is why we couldn’t look after him. There’s no room in my house and I can’t move the whole family over to mum’s place. I’m annoyed now that she didn’t agree to both of us selling up and moving together into a larger house with us (with separate residence for her) last year when I suggested it to her… she knew she had cancer but she didn’t want to move – now we have to figure out where she will spend her last days.
So that’s it. Life, Death, etc.
Oh Anj… my heart goes out to you and your family… there’s not much more i can say… but please know that you’re in our thoughts and prayers….
Oh Angela my heart so goes out to you … its just so hard to know what to do and when. My FIL has Dementia and its so hard watching him waste away as he rarely eats any more and in all honesty I dont know how my MIL does all the caring and still goes on every day.
Please know you are in my heart and prayers as is your mum and dad. Treasure the good times and the memories and spend as much time as you can with her. Its now been 16 months since our little Daniel went to heaven and I have so missed holding him and telling him how much i love him and watch him grow and get into mischief. Hold her close and tell her you love her as much as you can
big hugs, Leonie
Oh Angela
I’m so saddened to read this news about your parents. I knew something was up when you said your Mum was having stomach problems again. Like Tracey and Leonie said, what can be said except that my prayers and thoughts are with you and your parents too. You know where I am, you know how to contact me, if you need a shoulder or another ear to just listen, I’m there for you lovey. Remember to look after yourself too won’t you!! Watch that blood pressure my friend.
love,
Wirg x x
(((Hugs)))
{{{{Huge Hugs}}}}}
Angela I really don’t know what to say, but you know I’m thinking of you always.
Angela,
I’ve never read your ‘family bit’…………but all I can say is I know…………..my mum passed away in June after suffering bowel cancer for 3 years.We thought she would be OK , but it went to her lungs (everywhere actually). We all sold our houses and moved in together 7 years ago…….it certainly had its advantages………but my sister and I didn’t get a chance to rest while caring for mum.She was home until a few days before she dies.
I do hope you are OK and are looking after yourself!
Try to smile……we laugh all the time, when we aren’t crying anyway LOL!!